{"id":2125,"date":"2012-02-15T16:52:00","date_gmt":"2012-02-15T22:52:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/mypeacezone.com\/mamas-home-on-valentines-day\/"},"modified":"2019-02-18T09:59:11","modified_gmt":"2019-02-18T15:59:11","slug":"mamas-home-on-valentines-day","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mypeacezone.com\/?p=2125","title":{"rendered":"Mama’s Home on Valentine’s Day"},"content":{"rendered":"

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\nFebruary 14, 2004<\/p>\n

As usual on Valentine\u2019s, my husband, Ron, took Mom the single rose in a vase and her favorite box of chocolates. Mom had been living at the Grace Living Center in Jenks, Oklahoma for four and a half months because of a severe fall, which the doctor said was reason enough for her to not live alone anymore. \u201cWith her heart condition, this could happen again,\u201d he told us. <\/p>\n

Now, the daily routine at Grace was, the Nurse\u2019s Aides would get Mom up each morning, help dress her in one of her coordinated outfits, and take her in her wheelchair to the dining hall for her breakfast, and her other meals.<\/p>\n

When we arrived at her room (as was my daily routine anyway, but I went with Ron this morning), Mom was still in bed. Patsy, the South Wing Nurse on duty for this day, was leaning over Mom checking her heart with her stethoscope. Patsy looked up at us and said, \u201cEdna\u2019s not feeling so good today. She threw up quite hard last night. Her false teeth fell out of her mouth and the bottom ones broke!\u201d I immediately replied, in good hearing to Mother\u2019s right ear (she had extensive hearing loss), \u201cThat\u2019s okay — I\u2019ll take them on Monday and get them repaired\u201d. Mother so didn’t want anyone to see her without her dentures, so I knew I would have to make that a \u201cpriority\u201d errand on Monday (this was Saturday). I could tell she wasn\u2019t feeling good. She didn\u2019t respond heartily to our greetings, and only gave a \u201clittle\u201d smile to Ron as he reached down and kissed her, held out the rose in the vase and said, \u201cHappy Valentine\u2019s Day, Mom! Here\u2019s my flower and chocolates for my Sweetheart!\u201d And, as I leaned in close to her, I assured her that she looked beautiful without those dentures, caressing her face and soothing her with words to comfort the fact that she wasn\u2019t feeling good. I hadn\u2019t seen \u201cmy smile\u201d from her yet, so I did my usual coaxing, “Where\u2019s ‘my smile’?” To which, she gave a half-hearted little smile and mouthed the words, \u201cI\u2019m okay!\u201d. I noticed she had on her red plaid pajamas, and said, \u201cI see you\u2019ve got on your Valentine\u2019s PJs on!\u201d Ron then said, kiddingly, \u201cHey, Mom! Come on. Get up. Let\u2019s go shopping at the Mall. I\u2019ll push you in your silver spoked-wheel-chair!\u201d She always knew when Ron with jesting with her and today was no exception. She responded back to him by her typical sticking-out-her-tongue at him. <\/p>\n

Everyone who knew her, knew how she loved to \u201ckid\u201d and \u201cbe kidded\u201d by Ron. She and Ron had an unusually close relationship for the 40 years we had been married and five years before that. For many years Mother had lived with us when our children were young. Ron would tell anyone, \u201cMom and I have never had a cross word with one another \u2013 well, except for the one time I had to scold her for allowing our daughter, of ten years old at the time, to coax her into doing her chores (i.e., making her bed, emptying the dishwasher, etc.). Our daughter, Staci, would pay her fifty cents from her allowance.\u201d<\/p>\n

\nRon\u2019s Mom, Lydia, always came by to see Mother every Saturday after her weekly hair appointment, which was just a couple of blocks away. This morning was no exception. She came in and greeted her dearest friend of over 45 years. It was these two women who diligently \u201carranged, prayed, and continued to bless\u201d the relationship of Ron and I since I was twelve, and he was thirteen years old. How appropriate for all of us being together on this Valentine\u2019s Day. It was \u201cMom\u201d Lydia, and her husband, that drove Ron and I to our first date, which was a church Valentine\u2019s Banquet, 45 years ago. While all of us were together this morning, Mother kept trying to tell me something. I just couldn\u2019t make out the words.<\/p>\n

Since I had been through many physical \u201cups and downs\u201d with Mom over the last few years, I assumed that this morning would be like those from before where I had seen her feeling very low, but would bounce right back in just a matter of time. We all were convinced that Mom had nine lives — she\u2019d been so close to death several times in the last few years, but would recover and be her full-of-life self, spreading her love and joy to everyone around her once again. <\/p>\n

Before leaving her this morning, Ron reached out to Mom in his customary way, joined my hand and his Mother\u2019s hand, and said, \u201cLet\u2019s pray.\u201d He prayed his usual prayer of faith and trusting in God for Mom\u2019s healing, rest and peace. We all took turns reaching down and kissing Mom and telling her “good-bye”. I told her I\u2019d be back after a short while to see her. I guess I had a premonition that Mom just might get worse, so I went to the Nurse\u2019s Station and said to Patsy and the Nurses Aides, \u201cI know you check on Mom regularly, but would you keep an even closer eye on her today, and call me if her condition changes?\u201d They assured me that they would.<\/p>\n

We were gone only about an hour and a half, when I got a call from Patsy saying, \u201cDonna, I\u2019m sorry to tell you; your Mother passed away.\u201d Oh, the painful emotion I felt and the questioning ensued — \u201cWhy wasn\u2019t I there? Why did we leave her?\u201d When we got back to the Nursing Home, the Nurses Aides were with her. She was still in the same position as when we left. Nadia, one of the dear Nurses Aides from Russia, immediately told us that she had come in to see if Mother wanted lunch. Being Russian Orthodox in her religious beliefs, Nadia asked Mom if she could pray with her. Mother would always accept an offer for prayer. Nadia recounted her last moments with Mom. She said that she had prayed a simple prayer and said that Mother\u2019s eyes followed her gesture of signing her with the cross. Thereafter, Nadia left her room. After just a few minutes, Nadia came back to check on Mom, and she was gone. <\/p>\n

After pondering the events of Mom’s final moments of life. I came to believe that with Nadia’s gesture of signing Mom with the cross, that Mom, like Jesus Christ said in His final moments, said, \u201cIt is finished\u201d, and chose to let go of this life.<\/p>\n

After someone so close departs, we let our imaginations and deepest desires come to mind, hoping to relieve the pain of parting. Ron said, \u201cPapa got his Valentine Sweetheart back today!\u201d (Papa, my Dad and Mother\u2019s husband of 34 years, had preceded Mother in death forty years ago.) My dear Mother-in-Law, Lydia, said, \u201cDonna, remember when Edna was trying to tell you something before we left? I know she was saying, \u201cHe\u2019s coming for me.\u201d For me, having been a part of this beautiful, precious Saint\u2019s life, (I deemed her Saint Edna Pearl long ago), who, because of her prayers, steadfastness, strength, true unconditional love for me in all of my \u201cgrowing-up\u201d years, has caused me to be a the woman I am today. Though I miss her so much, just knowing her daily prayers of going home to be with Jesus and my Dad, were answered, causes me great comfort and joy. I think that my Dad and God had a mutual agreement on this Valentine\u2019s Day, \u201cLet\u2019s bring our \u201cBest Girl and Sweetheart\u201d home!\u201d <\/p>\n

Happy Valentine\u2019s Day, Mom!
\nI Love You!
\nDonna<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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