Affirmative & Positive OR Negative & Pessimistic

Last week, a friend’s FB post reminded me of how important it is to speak affirming and encouraging words to our children and grandchildren.  And, it shouldn’t stop there — speaking optimistic and uplifting words to everyone around us has the potential to change the course of someone’s day, even their life.

Lots of wisdom here from my friend, Dan Lillpop​, in his recent post:
“This morning, as is often the case, I was feeling a bit reflective. I thought about how often we, as parents, “prophesied” to our children when they were growing up. We would say things like: ‘You’re going to fall!’  ‘You’re gonna’ get sick!’  ‘You’ll miss your bus!’  ‘You’re going to get into trouble!’

I am sure you can think of many others, but the point is, we could have, and should have, done so much better. Not that there are not times when we should have made such statements, but we should also have included such statements as: ‘You’re going to make it!’  ‘You can do it!’  ‘I believe in you!’ ‘You are special!’ ‘You have what it takes!’ ‘You’re perfect just the way you are.’

My 3 boys are all grown now, and I can’t go back and change how I spoke to them, but I can encourage my grandchildren into greatness, by helping them to unpack all of their potential. I want to be a spark that ignites a great passion in their lives.  As a grandpa, I’m still going to “prophesy”, but now I want to prophesy success and good things. I want to help my grandchildren to become the best people they can be!  And hey! I want to also speak good things to my sons,  and for that matter, to all with whom I come into contact.  Let’s “prophesy” some good stuff today!”

Honestly, Dan spoke my heart in his words. The simplest things we might say and do, which, though seemingly ordinary, carry an immense weight in telling our children they are loved, cared for, and valued.  Do you remember those childhood experiences when you sensed the approval of a parent, a teacher or loved one?  The ultimate Father figure we have is Father God, and it would behoove us to follow His example in affirming our children and others.  Take a look at the example He sets from His Word.  He gives…

An arm over the shoulder or an embrace in a time of disappointment or fear (see Deuteronomy 33:27)

A pat on the back or a firm steadying hand at a crucial moment (see Psalm 139:5)

A whisper in the ear, giving quiet assurance or secret instructions (see Isaiah 30:21)

A snug tucking in bed when surrounded by the darkness of night (see Psalm 127:2-3)

But the most affirming are those blessings that come in our words: words that affirm and approve; words that commend and compliment;  words that specifically speak love and affection; words that invoke hope and self-confidence; and  words that answer pain and disappointment with support and faith.

May our words and actions bring light and life to our family and our world today.